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A Church Prop

Posted on October 10, 2016

The picture below is a traditional pulpit. It is not a prop, it is not a weapon by which people can be destroyed by being preached on rather than inspired by the Word of God. This pulpit is not a place to play dictator to those who trust you for healthy leadership. This is not the edifice by which to womanize or draw people into what you are NOT only to leave them broken while you continue to bring deliverance to others and just leaving the very people that you hurt for spoils. We are now living in a time where people think that being a minister or pastor is hereditary rather than an actual calling from God. Just because your grandfather’s grandfather’s grandfather on both sides of the family were both pastors does not necessarily mean that you should be. This pulpit is an entrusted place. It is sacred and unfortunately far too many in and out of the pulpit have forgotten that. I am not saying that the person that stands behind this has to be perfect, but can we at least say that we are yielded and acting according to God’s perfecting power? Only the people that stand before this and stand behind this can bring the reverence back to what this really is and until that happens people are only going to see a piece of wood. a bookrest, a prop…..not a place of power by which the Word of God is delivered and people are transformed.

May God be with us all, Helen

See With Your Heart

Posted on September 28, 2016

There are amazing people in this world. Some of these amazing people don’t look like you, talk like you, and may not even have the same beliefs as you, but you will never know how amazing they are because your eyes tell you one of two things:

1) Either you are too good to bother with them, or

2) You don’t measure enough to bother them and their time

I have entertained those thoughts many times and now wonder how many opportunities, friendships, inspirations, etc. did I miss out on? Who could I have blessed? Who could have possibly been a blessing to me?

In the days ahead my friends, don’t listen to your eyes, instead see with your heart and begin to reach out a little more to people. Even if you start with just saying a simple hello to someone that you would otherwise not acknowledge. Safety first and use good common sense! As much as there are good people in the world there are also those who really do have bad intentions and will harm you. It is those people that often cause other to “shell up” and not bother much with the world, but this is also no way to live and enjoy life.

See with your heart!

Peace – Helen

Handle Your Business

Posted on September 22, 2016

It is time out for women building their world around a man who has not proven himself to be consistent or stable. If you are going to do some business, handle it for yourself and in a way that it does not matter who is in your life, handle it in a way that you it will get it done.

Don’t make long term decisions based on a temporary man.

Peace- Helen

Judge Me

Posted on August 21, 2016

I am amused when I hear, CAN’T NOBODY JUDGE ME!

Well, I want to be judged. That doesn’t mean that I want you to go tell cousin boo bear or Sister So-So about me, but I want you to come to ME and tell me when I am not doing something right. Pull me to the side and tell me that I am acting a foo, your slip is hanging or in other words – get it together girl!

When you fail to tell the person and instead go talk to others, that makes you a GOSSIP, a possible slanderer, and a …worker of divisions among people …which kind of makes you no better than the person that you deem to have the problem.

When people come to me with mess about other people, one of the first things that I will say is – have you talked to that person and if they haven’t I will tell that person that is what they need to do- because that is what I would want someone to do for me.

You see, I want to get things right on this side. At the end of the day when I stand before God, He may not see a perfect person but He will see a heart that has strived, longed, and tried to be better and live after Him.

Peace,

Helen

Title

Posted on August 15, 2016

If you pick up a piece of trash that that make you a garbage man?

If you make coffee and tea for a meeting, does that make you waitress?

If you wipe up a spill that is on the floor does that make you a maid?

If you help someone complete a task does that mean that you can now claim their job title?

If you complete an assignment from someone other than who you report to, does that mean that you now work for them?

(It always bothers me to hear someone say that they work for this person or that person. If we are part of the same company, this means we are on the same team, which means we all work for one another)

If you help a puppy who has wandered out in the street, does that make you the animal control?

If you answer the phone at the switch board, does that make you the receptionist?

If you…..if you….if you….. this can go on forever.

Too many people who have no sense of who they are or who covet what others do or have, will feel the need to change their title for every little thing that they do, especially if it is something that they feel like they should be doing anyway. BUT take note that these are the same people who will never change their title to maid because they would rather call someone else to wipe up a small spill than to do it themselves. They would never change their title to garbage man, because they find that dealing with trash or picking up trash is beneath them. They feel this way because they identify themselves with what they do.

When you KNOW who are, picking up trash doesn’t bother you… wiping up a spill is looking out for the next person and not a chore for what you consider to be for a “lesser” person…. helping a colleague doesn’t mean that you have to tell others that you helped that person and think that gives you the right to claim their job title…..when you KNOW who you are, the title DOESN’T mean anything ANYWAY. It is not the title that defines you, but rather the humble heart of service that you have behind the title that guides you into excellence, not the title itself.

That is why no matter what you do in this life be it a trash man or the president of a company, you can be excellent because of your excellence!!!

Know who you are and serve with a spirit of teamwork and a heart of integrity.

Just pondering life…..Helen

Finger Lick’n….ewww!

Posted on August 12, 2016

You know what….I have so much to say about this, but I am not. Bottom line: do not lick your fingers at a buffet, potluck, or dinner party. No wait, how about not licking your fingers ever? Yeah that about sums up how I feel about this.

Had a potluck today and the first person the in the front of the line was just going to town with licking her fingers and picking up other spoons and so on. Really? I along with about three other people who witnessed this fiasco of saliva just turned and left…….

Finger lick’n ewwwww!

Goodbye……

Posted on July 30, 2016

I try to avoid saying goodbye in everyday life. It is a word that has never made me feel comfortable or at peace. Through time and living, I have learned that sometimes you will indeed have to dismiss yourself….your heart, from situations that are of no benefit to you other than the pain, confusion, and agony that it has to offer. If you are like me, you love hard. I mean, once love enters your heart for someone you are locked in a like pit bull and you will fight (not literally – that is never cool or lady like) for that that love, honor that love, be patient with that love, be loyal to that love…. I don’t love easily but when I do you best believe that it is for real. Even that kind of love has its’ limits and when you reach that limit seldom will it ever return with the same fervor and devotion – and sometimes it is just over.

Say something is such a beautiful song. Giving up on someone that you love is never easy, but in all honesty, if you have to beg someone to say something to you, they actually gave up on you a long time ago and you are better off for just stepping away.

“You’re the one that I love, and I am saying goodbye”…..goodbye.

Helen

Yawn It Out

Posted on June 16, 2016

I had a great conversation with a friend about yawning. I am a great advocate of a good and hearty yawn – oh yesssss! You know that kind where your arms are outstretched, back is arched, and you make all the very animated faces and sounds? Now that is a good yawn. I was surprised to see him belly laugh when I went onto explain that a yawn, was not a good yawn unless about five people have at least heard it or witnessed it. LOL….I mean really? What’s up with the lil squeaky yawns? Yeah, yeah, yeah that’s cute, but sometimes you have yawn some things out. Yawn out that long work day. Yawn out the fact that you have been sitting on a conference call for three hours with no end in sight. Yawn out the fact that every morsel of your body is tired and there nothing like a good hearty yawn, to relax and awaken all at the same time.

When in doubt….YAWN IT OUT!

Make it a great day – Helen

Two Sides

Posted on June 16, 2016

Even if something appears to be true, it is important not to take what one side says as the complete truth. Sometimes people who are operating in a divisive mindset will capitalize on how you falter in a crisis or will rely on that thing that appears to be true to make themselves look good. They will say things like….you know how so and so is, OR she is just like that, I just try to be different, blah blah blah.

These type of people do hold the power as they are able to mask the hatred in their heart for the person that they are targeting and they clothe that hatred in false sincerity, appearing to be a peacemaker,an advocate, the nice guy…just enough to keep you on their side of the dividing line that they helped to create. If you are not careful you will stay on that side of their line, enslaved in deceit and blocked off from truth….a puppet to their agenda.

A nice long talk can solve so much, but if you never get that….know that whether you are on one side or the other, that God knows the intent of everything that is said and done, God knows the very fabric of heart and at the end of the day, we have to rest in that. Peace – Helen

Be Strong

Posted on June 13, 2016

Don’t ever allow embarrassment and humiliation to consume you. When you take a stand against your offenses and decide that you are worth more than the dysfunction that has been offered to you, people won’t laugh at what was done to you, instead they will most likely ponder the strength you must have in order to move forward. People will, on the other hand, laugh at you for being a darned fool… for following up behind what has already thrown you away. People rarely laugh at people for being strong.

Be Strong…..Helen