Sometimes the elephant in the room is not the biggest problem… sometimes it is the people who are ignoring it, sometimes it is smaller things, the things that are not seen that present the biggest problems…. just pondering, Helen
Articles from November 2014
Depth Of A Leader
The depth and character of a leader can be determined by the state of the people who have been walking with that leader the longest – Helen
Journey On My Friends….
It is hard to know what angle people may be coming from, but it is important to stay focus on where you are going….on the journey – Helen
Does Anybody See Her?
Why are people so cruel? Saw a woman at lunch who obviously has more issues than me and most other people. Tattered clothes, missing teeth, bright pink ratted hair, her head hung low…people were laughing at her and they weren’t even trying to be discreet about it. She walked up to a table of a group of laughing women… she said “its okay I saw you laughing at me, my hair was supposed to be red but it turned pink instead, I saw you laughing” then she walked away from them. The women of course reacted totally repulsed that she even came near their perfect little bubble. This woman ordered a bagel and started walking back out the same way she came in, with people still looking at her is disbelief all the while chuckling among themselves. She stopped by my table and said ” my hair was supposed to be red not pink” I didn’t even see her hair at that point, all I saw was hopelessness in her eyes. I have NEVER seen that depth of hopelessness, this woman was lost and my heart literally ached for her. All I could say was. ” you are not your hair, you are not what you wear. God doesn’t want any of that, he wants your heart. your thoughts, let him take care of your heart. ” She looked at me with the same hopeless look and said, “K” and walked away.
I am not sharing this to pin roses on myself. I am not so great and most days I am a step away from the edge …. but God is s keeper!!! I love this song by Casting Crowns, Does Anybody Hear Her? People are hurting in the world, Lord knows I have experienced my own, perhaps you are hurting right now, and this woman….this woman with the pink ratted hair…….well I wonder wherever she is ….does anybody see HER? Not her hair, not her clothes, but does anybody SEE HER??????
Helen
These Boots Are Made For Walking
“Your destiny is not tied to the person that left” …challenge to myself and others is to get the gift of good bye. Good bye, not only with the presence of people in our lives but within our hearts, get rid of the graveyards of lost loves and disappointments that are laid up in hearts and minds as well. This is not easy when you truly love someone, but it is necessary in order to truly begin to “live” again. Peace Helen
Regards
Eyes opened: I am never impressed by how “highly” someone might speak of me or another person, it is not their words that matter but it is how they actually regard you in matters that counts – Helen
Stay Connected
Romans 8:38-39New International Version (NIV)
38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[a] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Gift Of Resolution
The most powerful gift that you can ever give yourself and others is the gfit of “resolution”. When things are resolved or when resolution happens, it sweeps a path from where you are standing now and clears it well into the future. Unfortunately, resolution is a gift that is seldom given and people are left with paths scattered with things that they are not sure whether to keep or throw to the side. Make it a point to resolve whatever you can.
He Is Always With Us
Psalm 139
1 You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before,
and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
too lofty for me to attain.
7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
your right hand will hold me fast.
Amen.
Three Is A Crowd
I met a woman at a conference this week who is dealing with her husband’s best friend….who happens to be a female. She is convinced that the best friend is still in love with her husband. They were friends several years before they ever met and fell in love and during the course of them being friends she made it known to him that she wanted more than just their friendship, but nothing ever came of it so they continued being friends.
Now…..as a woman, any woman will tell you that most women are not designed this way – I don’t care how much they mask it When a woman loves you, she loves you. When her heart beats that special pitter patter that says “amore”, rarely does it change unless her heart has found a comparable home itself. Okay, well that is my two cents- back to business –
This poor woman is contemplating divorce!!!! She says her husband may not be physically cheating but he is emotionally absent with her but gives his heart hopes and dreams to this female best friend. She claims that this friend tried to be friends with her like she did all of his previous love interests, but became very nasty when she refused to share aspects of their relationship with her. She said the best friend is always there, she can rarely have a dinner without the bestie calling or her husband making conversation about his “friend”.
It sounds like the grits hit the fan when he wanted to give this woman a key to their house while they were on vacation.
This is what I am pondering….would the husband tolerate his wife having a male best friend as his? Probably not. I cannot think of one man would be fine with his wife going to the movies with, giving a key to his house to, or constantly referring to her male best friend. Her husband needs to think about how he would feel and then put himself in his wife’s shoes.
As for the female “friend”…..I sincerely doubt that this woman would tolerate the man in her life having a female best friend….so why does she feel that it is okay for her be in the role that she is in with someone’s husband.
Respect and boundaries….respect and boundaries……still pondering…..