What is the purpose of salt if it only stays in the shaker? Amen? Amen.
Other Foot It
I really think that a great deal of the problems great and small, would be solved or never happen if people would just “other foot it” – you know put the shoe on the other foot and think….now would I want someone to do that me or someone I love…..just pondering.
Emotional Terrorism
What is the deal these days with male and female friendships? I just completed my third phone call within the last month or so regarding male and female friendships and the mess that stemmed from it.
Here is the bottom line:
Ladies, if you are stroking his hair, feeding him tiny morsels of food or nuzzling his ear, after a while he is going to think that you are interested in progressing the “supposed” friendship into a dating relationship….
Guys, if you are wining and dining, snuggling on, talking about a future with your friend who happens to be a girl, or saying or treating your “girl” friend in a way that that you would NEVER say or treat your guy friends……
Then don’t be surprised when your friend starts getting a little googley eyed toward you and the expectations change. And….before you call them crazy, a stalker, or say that they lied to you about being your friend, it might be a good idea to check yourself and ask what did you do to contribute to this situation.
Leading someone on is nothing short of emotional terrorism. And, like any act of terrorism there is destruction that follows, the only thing is that the person who caused the destruction doesn’t stick around to see the damage. Stop it already!
Helen
Welcome to Pondering Paths
Hello and welcome to Pondering Paths! There are numerous paths that will be encountered throughout our lives, it is my hope that Pondering Paths will encourage you as you travel and live from day to day. It is okay to ponder… just keep moving toward a better you!
You Betta Go On and Live!!!!!
Wow! Jennifer Holliday was very theatrical in this video!
Song says,” I am not living without you, I don’t wanna be free, I’m staying and your gonna love me”. Why do women do this to themselves? You can stay right there baby locked up in the residue of what was never love in the first place, he is and was already gone a long time. Free yourself!!!!! You don’t think you can live without him, but when you let him leave you physically and emotionally (in other words quit thinking about the man), you will live even better.
I am not speaking from a place of not knowing what this feels like. I know what it is to love man who just …..I don’t know….just… goes away….for whatever reason. I know what it feels like to love someone with the purest form of love on Earth, to hold that relationship before God everyday and ask him to bless it, to deny the things that you really want to do( clearing throat) in order to have an honorable relationship before God, but still and yet you end up crying and alone.
The best gift that a man who can’t value and love you can give you is to walk away. Actually my sisters, help him out the door. Go on and cry your tears and let those tears provide water to nourish you for your real blessings. No one wants to feel disregarded and treated like you never even existed. No one wants to see the person they love move on with someone else and you have to live with their good bye and sometimes you don’t even get that. Whatever you do don’t numb yourself to those feelings because out of those feelings will come some of the greatest lessons that you will ever learn about yourself. – Helen
Victory
Today I wear the victory…..
I have learned that it is not good enough just to have the victory, it must be worn. Not worn like a peacock flaunting feathers but rather with grace and humility, worn with a thankfulness that you are still standing in the midst of and perhaps even on the other side of the battle.
Helen
Bring the Rain
You can’t get the rainbow without enduring some rain.
That Kind of Love
Went shopping this weekend for plants and flowers to decorate my home. I was surrounded by all kinds of beautiful flowers which would have looked great within my decor, but I couldn’t buy them all. I had to narrow down to the one that would bring together every facet of my home. That’s a lot like love. There are a lot of beautiful and wonderful people in the world, but there is one who will compliment you, your life and your purpose more than anyone else. The one who will still stir your heart and make butterflies flutter as if you just met, except it’s 20 years later. If you have that kind of love, treasure and nurture it. If you dont, trust that it will come and know that you don’t have to compromise or play dirty to get it.
True Joy of Living
Those who are in constant pursuit of perfection miss out on the true joy of living. My path has been scattered with the bumps and trials of life, they all have colored me the “hues” of who I am today. With all my imperfections I say that I am thankful for the road behind me, grateful for today and trust God for tomorrow….