I have a friend who is constantly falling in love all the time. Every other day this woman is in love with someone new, geesh. Her explanation every time is that she just fell in love. It is maddening.
I don’t fall in love. I am never that careless with my heart. If I love you, then I have made that decision to release a wall in my heart and paint that a shade of you. If I love you, then I have chosen to love you, there is no accident and no falling. That means that I have seen some good and I have even seen some bad parts of you and still I have chosen to love….you.
Some might say that if you choose to love, then you can choose not to love. Well, that part is not so easy. Love is not a light switch, instead it entwines within the fabric of your soul, love becomes part of who you are and once it is part of who you are, you are never the same again. Sometimes when loving someone does not work out the way you had hoped, it is difficult and it takes time and commitment to yourself to move past that love… to paint your heart a different color and start anew….and again, you are choosing to love.
To love,
Helen