You will never find what you want or who you want as long as you keep doing the same thing. If you keep dating the same kind of women in the the same kind of way, chances are you will be back on the merry go round in no time. Give the woman a chance to open up to you, don’t gouge her for information but instead create and be a safe place where she can express herself without ridicule from you. Instead of charging out of the gates at 100 mph talking about sex and fantasies, be her fantasy and she will eventually fulfill yours.