Articles from November 2015

Some believe that the most powerful word in any language is the word “love”. I would agree, but, there is another word that is just as powerful.  This word can stop tears, clear confusion, help to heal a broken heart…..this word is so powerful that I bet it could stop wars, but instead lands become militarized, blood is shed and the destinies of men and women are halted.  Too many people have had to find a way to fight through life without this word ever being uttered to them, they had to fight to get to their place of being healed without an explanation that should come with this word to relieve the “what if’s” and the “what could I have done differently’  that people torment themselves with….the word that I am referring to is “sorry”.

The word “sorry” is a gift, do you hear me….it is a gift that can make someone look less like a jerk or a mean girl and can start someone’s heart to beat again.  If you owe a sorry to someone, darn it -say it and if you have the courage, explain what that sorry means.  If you are waiting to hear, sorry, don’t put your life on hold waiting for it.  If you never hear that word again in your life, healing will happen for you and you just might be little stronger for it – just don’t drive yourself crazy with those “what ifs”.  If sorry does come your way, be sure to accept it with honesty and above all accept it with grace.

I heard this song by Adele on my way home last night, it is fabulous.

Lyrics:

Hello, it’s me.  I was wondering if after all these years you would like to meet? To go over everything, they say that time is supposed to heal ya, but I haven’t done much healing…….I must have called a thousand times to tell you that I’m sorry for everything that I’ve done……at least I can say that I tried to tell you I’m sorry for breaking your heart.

I have a friend who is constantly falling in love all the time.  Every other day this woman is in love with someone new, geesh. Her explanation every time is that she just fell in love.  It is maddening.

I don’t fall in love.  I am never that careless with my heart.  If I love you, then I have made that decision to release a wall in my heart and paint that a shade of you.  If I love you, then I have chosen to love you, there is no accident and no falling.  That means that I have seen some good and I have even seen some bad parts of you and still I have chosen to love….you.

Some might say that if you choose to love, then you can choose not to love. Well, that part is not so easy.  Love is not a light switch, instead it entwines within the fabric of your soul, love becomes part of who you are and once it is part of who you are, you are never the same again. Sometimes when loving someone does not work out the way you had hoped, it is difficult and it takes time and commitment to yourself to move past that love… to paint your heart a different color and start anew….and again, you are choosing to love.

To love,

Helen

I sat and watched a wedding from my office window this weekend. It was not a large wedding with tons of decorations, people, or flowers, but rather very quaint and intimate with just a small group of witnesses and the bridal party.  Slowly the wedding party slowly march together and  joined the groom at the front.  Then he waited, his eyes focused toward the distance looking intently for his bride.  I started to get nervous for this groom…. where is the bride?  But….he waited patiently, he waited peacefully….he waited and waited.

Then finally she came out and came forth and stood at the end of the aisle.  I could almost feel the energy that was connecting them.  It was truly indeed a beautiful moment, when I saw him exhale and smile one of the biggest loving smiles I could ever long to see for myself.  Before she moved a long wispy curl fell down and a lady rushed right to her side and pinned it up.  Now…..she is ready!

As I watched this bride, take each careful step toward her groom, toward her good morning, toward her goodnight, toward her I love you, toward her forever earthly love – I pondered…….

I sat there and watched this union solidify before God and man.  I continued to watch as they walked arm and arm after the ceremony across a windswept field so close and in tune with one another… and I began to hum the song that Dan Fogelberg sang so beautifully called, Make Love Stay.

How will they make love stay? Will he always be so patient in waiting or her as he did today?  Will the corners of his mouth turn up to the smile that he smiled when he first saw his bride at the end of the aisle?  Will she always  take the time to look her best for him….pinning up that fallen strand?

If we could capture every moment, thought, feelings… if we could bottle the love and hope for forever that is expressed and felt on the wedding day…there would be no question on how to make love stay.  Since there is no bottle labeled “Wedding Day”, then marriage will hopefully be a masterful journey of love, evolving love, forgiveness, hope, understanding, joy, memories, support…..now that is how you make love stay.

Make Love Stay Lyrics by Dane Fogelberg:

Now that we love
Now that the lonely nights are over
How do we make love stay?
Now that we know
The fire can burn bright or merely smolder
How do we keep it from dying away?